Spiritual Mentorship .

If you are looking for help in your spiritual life, you’re in the right place. For you, this could mean living free from suffering, recognising your true self, realising truth or finding God (as you imagine Him or Her to be).

If you are looking for help that focuses primarily on more immediate practical matters like career, relationships or personal effectiveness, visit my coaching area instead.

As a Spiritual Mentor, I:

Act as a conversation and thought partner

Provide pointers toward truth

Bring underlying assumptions/beliefs into the open

Help you work with confusion / discomfort

Help anchor your learning in direct experience

Adjust unrealistic expectations that stand in your way

Help you come unstuck


For nearly 40 years, I’ve found solace, comfort and inspiration from dozens of spiritual teachers, including Elkhart Tolle, Mooji, Gangaji, Rupert Spira, and Adyashanti. However, one-on-one spiritual counsel is virtually impossible with any of them, due to their name recognition. 

Discovering Doug Fraley on the internet and being able to actually speak with him directly was a tremendous gift in my life. I consider him to be a remarkably grounded “spiritual guru” who engages “truth seekers” with his enlightened humor, compassion, empathy, clarity, true wisdom and unconditional love.
He’s the real deal. 
Carol, Florida

Doug has the unique ability to help me navigate multiple layers of questioning, from short term career/relationship problem solving through to guiding a deeper reflection of what “this” is all about. I have a deep interest in life’s big questions and mysteries, but I also live a pretty normal life grappling with everyday problems, aspirations and goals. Over the years, Doug has been one of the key sounding boards that has helped me bring the pieces of the puzzle together.

Mark, Melbourne

Doug is a mentor, spiritual teacher and intellectual guide in exploring the fundamental concerns of life. He is a self-realized being, and his sincere intent to help others is admirable. A gifted healer, Doug helped me see the light from the place of darkness I was in. (A guru is one who guides you from darkness to light).

Sara, Chicago

Primary Approaches

On my own path, I’ve found it helpful to combine clarity practices and heart practices. We can employ either or both.

  • Clarity practices might be called ‘head-led’. They include following pointers to the Truth from different wisdom traditions, uncovering hidden aspects of your intellectual conditioning and conducting self-inquiry.
  • Heart practices could be termed ‘body-led’. These work with your reactions to intense emotions. They help you use normal life experience to identify and shine light on your shadow elements, allowing you to re-integrate a full self and to maintain balance in a greater range of situations.
  • Ultimately, these different paths unite, as the work of relaxation and integration forms a mutually supportive cycle with the shedding of false assumptions and an ‘upgraded’ and ever-lighter conceptual lens.

Working Together

My approach is flexible. We can meet for one session, add individual ones as we go, or design and book an entire programme.

This all starts with a free exploratory discussion in which:

  • You help me understand your situation and what you would like to get from our engagement.
  • I address any questions you have about myself and how I work.
  • I share initial thoughts about my ability to help and ways we might proceed.
  • We agree the pricing structure: following our initial discussion, additional one-hour sessions cost £50 each.

Arrange an exploratory discussion about Spiritual Mentorship .

Writings that reflect my approach

Forget Perfection and Aim for Wholeness

Forget Perfection and Aim for Wholeness

What we unknowingly seek is our own wholeness - to express and experience all that we are. What stands in our way of finding it? Our own childish definition of the ‘me’ who seeks it, the labels we hide behind and the priority we give comfort over curiosity.

Life’s Mystery Outreaches any Mastery

Life’s Mystery Outreaches any Mastery

Throughout my life, my highest priority has been to be right, and I’ve assumed that being right would bring me security. Now, I value learning over knowledge, and I realise that learning requires admitting fallibility and befriending uncertainty.

Working with What Is

Working with What Is

The most profound personal growth comes from a deeper understanding and acceptance of Now, of What Is. Any moment, regardless of its particulars, is dazzling in its completeness, and this insight brings a new perspective.

Anxiety as a Glimpse of Freedom

Anxiety as a Glimpse of Freedom

Spiritual progress involves movement toward surrender or letting go, and this corresponds to a shift in the view of self: from being a separate agent to being an inseparable aspect of a unitary process. With that recognition, it becomes clear that security, certainty and control don’t exist and never did. We may feel anxiety as a product of moving into vulnerability and openness, while still carrying a sense of separateness.

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